How To Heal Grief From The Heart & Not The Mind

When we understand the value of grieving, we may be inclined to think that we should cry. On a non-physical (spiritual) level, the energy of should is incompatible with true healing.

When we think we should grieve, we are using our intellect to control the normal process of our hearts. When we tell ourselves that we "should", "must," or "have to" do something, we are allowing the mind to set the vibration at which we act. Yet, far more important than what we do is the frequency in which we do it! In other words, is what you are doing coming from your heart or (intellectual) responsibility? When we do things from a heart-centered space we are in a higher vibrational frequency & send out more love to the world.

Every act and every thought has a frequency and is felt throughout the Universe for we are all connected. We are part of the One! Each and everyone of us is part of the whole (God). Think of the ocean as Creator, God, or Source. When we take water out of the ocean it may have been separated from its original source, but it is still part of the ocean. Just like in physical form, we appear to be separated from each other and from those that are deceased. Yet, we are still connected & I believe that connection is love.

To cry because we should is to mourn through and with the ego. To cry because we want to is a gentle and loving way to nurture ourselves. Spirit never abandons us in our grief, and no one mourns alone. The solitary mourner is surrounded and embraced by a caring family of spirit guides, angels, & the departed whose love for us is transcendent. Bodies die, love does not. As we think of those who have returned to spirit, the energy of our thoughts calls them to us.

They are able to place ideas in our minds-both when we are awake and even more so when we dream-and feelings in our intuition. Because they are now energy unencumbered by physical restrictions, they can communicate through devices like telephones.

Like spirit guides and angels, they can arrange for coincidences that guide, heal, and otherwise benefit us. It is not uncommon for example, for a grieving person to be guided to (and then adopt) a stray animal shortly after losing someone. I believe this is a way for spirit to bring joy to the person (s) that is grieving. The love we have for our pets is pure & unconditional.

Loved ones in Spirit are able to create familiar scents, such as cologne or perfume they used when they were still in physical form. They have us notice these scents as a way of communicating to us that they are still connected to us-just in a different way.

Our grief sometimes interferes with our ability to receive their messages, but our openness to the presence of deceased loved ones is an invitation to them to work healing miracles in our lives.

Love & Light,

Dee